“Should I stay or leave?” is rarely answered by a simple list of pros and cons. Attachment, fear, responsibilities, shared life and hope do not fit neatly into two columns.

It may help to separate what is actually happening today from what you hope will eventually change. Notice whether promised changes are visible in everyday behaviour or only appear during crisis.

Safety comes first. If there is violence, threat, coercion or fear for your immediate safety, appropriate specialist support is needed rather than only relationship reflection.

When there is no immediate danger, the decision may need time. It is not a failure to need support in hearing your own position more clearly.