Jealousy can appear even in relationships that contain love and trust. What matters is what we do when it appears.

Sometimes underneath it is fear of comparison, rejection or abandonment. At other times there are real behaviours in the relationship that need discussion.

If you try to control fear by controlling the other person, you may feel temporary relief, but insecurity usually returns. The certainty you are seeking cannot be manufactured through constant surveillance.

A useful starting point is: “what exactly am I afraid this means about me?” The answer may lead to a more meaningful conversation.