Some changes are not chosen: a breakup, a move, job loss, another person’s decision. The first response may be “this was not supposed to happen”.

Acceptance is not agreement or justification. It is the gradual movement from “this cannot be true” towards “this is the reality in front of me now”.

From there, choices can begin to appear that were previously invisible because all energy was being used trying to restore the past.

There is no timetable for this movement. It can go forwards and backwards. That does not mean you are not moving.