When a similar story keeps repeating, it is easy to blame ourselves. It may be more useful to examine what begins to feel familiar before we fully notice it.

There may be a particular point where you start ignoring a need, fearing a boundary or adapting too much. Patterns often hide in the small early decisions, not only in how the story ends.

Self-awareness does not mean perfectly explaining the past. It means recognising a repeated signal early enough to have more choices.

The question is not only “why do I do this?” It is also “what is the first point at which I could do something differently?”